Today it’s my honour to be taking part in the blog tour for Clipped Wings by Jennifer Gilmour. I will be sharing with you an extract from the book in a short while, but it’s important that you understand what this book is all about.
The Official Book Blurb
The silent chorus.
Just imagine you thought that you had met the man or woman of your dreams. This person was charming and you thought they were the one or perhaps that this was fate; it was just meant to be.
But as the months go by things start to change. Their behaviour towards you isn’t the same, they are more critical, more particular about your appearance, what you do, how you do
it, who you see. Time goes by and you feel isolated from your friends and family because that behaviour has now changed to threats, maybe violence and you feel that your identity is all but gone. But still you stay. Where would you go? Who would help you? You are not worthy.
But you are.
A group of survivors have spoken about their own experiences. In their own words they show that survivors do have a voice and that it needs to be heard. They show that abuse isn’t unique or strange but that it is, unfortunately, a surprisingly
common problem in today’s society.
The message of this book is one of courage, as with courage comes awareness and an ability to understand what has happened to you and take the steps needed to become a survivor yourself.
Far from being a polished morality tale or a mere work of fiction, Clipped Wings is a collection of brutally honest accounts of domestic abuse. I’ve only been able to read one or two of the sections myself so far as this is a book which will really touch you as a reader and it is a very hard book to read at times. The stories are told in the words of the victims and if you did not know that they were true accounts, you’d think them to fantastical at times to be real. And yet, sadly and disturbingly, they are. If you take only one thing from the book, then maybe it will be the inordinate amount of courage it took these people to end the cycle of abuse and to tell their stories to the world. If it can help another victim find a voice, or give someone the courage to help a friend in need, then I think it has most certainly done it’s job.
This next passage is an extract from the book – the introduction from the books creator and abuse survivor, Jennifer Gilmour.
The following pages contain personal stories, recounted to me by a selection of people, all of whom have suffered the ignominy of domestic abuse. These accounts have been passed to me in response to the publication of my debut novel Isolation Junction and the publicity surrounding it. Since then, I have been contacted by dozens of people wanting to share their experiences with me and as a result, I decided that I would do everything in my power to give these people a public voice.
Sadly, many of these stories have similar themes and support the statistic that 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men have been affected by domestic abuse during their lifetime.
Each account represents a personal experience and I believe this is key to bringing awareness of this insidious and damaging behaviour. In some cases, people have written their own account, in others, their story has been developed through a personal interview. These are not my words but the words of the brave survivors who have chosen to share their experiences with you.
We hope that this book will be of interest to a broad range of people: professionals seeking to read case studies; people with a specific interest in or training in the sector; those wishing to gain an understanding of what domestic abuse can look like from the victim’s point of view so that they may realise that what they are going through is not acceptable.
Whatever your personal reason for reading these accounts, it will aid your understanding and knowledge; these stories are raw and real. You will be given a snapshot of what life was like for them in their abusive relationships.
My hope, therefore, is that this book will empower others to take a stand against this kind of behaviour and see that there are many aspects that make up domestic abuse, from the horrific visuals of violence, the mental torture of emotional abuse and coercive control, the terror of sexual abuse, the worrying financial control, and the disturbing use of children as weapons.
I have also contributed. This is as a mark of solidarity and to send a clear message – those of us who have suffered at the hands of others stand together and by doing so, our voices are louder and our influence stronger.
‘Our wings were clipped, our restrictions were made, our boundaries were tested but now we are free, aren’t we?
We look above in the sky at the birds and hope to be free. But the birds make their nests in the trees high above, to protect themselves from predators. Free birds must keep looking over their shoulders the same way all of us have to.’
Clipped Wings was released on 30th October and is available from the following retailers:
About the Author
Born in the North East, Jennifer is a young, married mum with three children. In addition to being an author, she is an entrepreneur, running a family business from her home-base. Her blog posts have a large readership of other young mums in business.
From an early age, Jennifer has had a passion for writing and started gathering ideas and plot lines from her teenage years. A passionate advocate for women in abusive relationships, she has drawn on her personal experiences to write this first novel ‘Isolation Junction’. It details the journey of a young woman from the despair of an emotionally abusive and unhappy marriage to develop the confidence to challenge and change her life and to love again.
Since the publication of her debut novel Jennifer has continued to be an advocate for those in abusive relationships through her blog posts, radio interviews and Twitter feed. Jennifer also gained a qualification in facilitating a recover programme for those who have been in abusive relationships.
Jennifer continues to publicly support those who are isolated and struggle to have a voice. Jennifer hopes that ’Clipped Wings’ give’s a voice to survivor’s experiences and raise’s awareness further of the types of unacceptable behaviour which fall into the category of domestic abuse.
Do make sure to join the rest of the tour for a mixture of features and reviews.