Today I am delighted to take part in the blog tour for Isolation Junction by Jennifer Gilmour, the story of one woman’s struggle to find a way out of an emotionally abusive relationship. Jennifer has kindly taken some time out to answer a few of my questions, but first, here is what the book is all about.
The Official Book Blurb
Rose is the mother of two young children, and finds herself living a robotic life with an abusive and controlling husband. While she struggles to maintain a calm front for the sake of her children, inside Rose is dying and trapped in ‘Isolation Junction’. She runs an online business from home, because Darren won’t let her work outside the house. Through this, she meets other mums and finds courage to attend networking events, while Darren is at work, to promote her business. It’s at one of these events that Rose meets Tim, a sympathetic, dark-haired stranger who unwittingly becomes an important part of her survival.
After years of emotional abuse, of doubting her future and losing all self-confidence, Rose takes a stand. Finding herself distraught, alone and helpless, Rose wonders how she’ll ever escape with her sanity and her children. With 100 reasons to leave and 1,000 reasons she can’t, will she be able to do it? Will Tim help her? Will Rose find peace and the happiness she deserves? Can Rose break free from this spiralling life she so desperately wants to change?
Now over to Jennifer for the gentle grilling…
What is the first book you remember reading or having read to you?
I remember this well, because my mum gave me a set of the Beatrix Potter books when I was under 10 years old. It was a perfect gift for me as I loved both the stories and the illustrations. I still have the books to this day and will pass them onto my eldest to enjoy.
Who is your favourite literary character?
Without question my favourite character is Hermione Granger from the Harry Potter series because I relate to her. I was always in the library studying when I was at school and seemed to be outside the most popular but like Hermione I had a few close friends who stuck by my side throughout my time at school. I used to always ask for extra homework and try to work my hardest despite not knowing my career path and where I wanted to go with my life.
Which book have you always meant to get around to reading, but still not read?
Believe it or not for around 5 years I have been meaning to read the Twilight Saga which was given to me as a gift. I must say I spent quite a few years in my young adult life without reading and this was one of those must reads then. Perhaps when I read it I will feel young again!
If you could only take one book with you on a desert island, which would it be?
It would be a blank book, one that I could fill with my thoughts and fears, dreams and goals.
What are you currently reading?
A Yorkshire Christmas by Katie Hewitt.
Emotional First Aid: Life after Domestic Abuse by Hayley Wheeler.
Stop Talking, Start Doing Action Book by Shaa Wasmund
What’s the best advice you have ever received?
To take ownership of a situation and choose how to deal with the situation step by step.
I am allowed to do this and ultimately if I keep worrying about something (which is what I am good at) then I am making a conscious decision to worry, then I could decide on how to help make it better and take the worry away. I always try to take ownership now.
What’s the worst advice you have ever received?
To ‘put up’ with my ex’s abusive behaviour until the children are at least 16. For a while I thought that I should accept this advice. I can’t mention who gave me this advice, but it I can say it was a family member who didn’t and still doesn’t understand the situation I got into with the person who abused me. I am glad I didn’t take their advice or any further advice either. I can say that my abuser clearly had worked their charm on them somehow so they couldn’t see the bigger picture but I needed someone to say that this was unhealthy and not my fault. Once this happened I felt empowered to move on positively with my life,
Who is your hero or heroine (real or fictional)?
My husband. He knows what he has done for me and that I will be forever grateful to him. In a nut-shell he is positive selfless, caring, supportive and always encourages, motivates and tries to think of the best way through a difficult situation. Exactly what I needed in my life. He has unconditionally supported me and it has not been easy when I’ve had to repair myself after being abused but through his help and understanding friends, I am finally regaining my identity and confidence in making decisions. It has taken a lot of patience on his part and I admire his determination to make this work. We are such a strong team now and I hope I can offer the same for him steadfast support to him. I know that I have finally found what I was looking for and that was a husband that loves me for who I am and supports me to be the independent person who was trapped inside me.
Thank you, Jennifer. I am glad to hear that you’ve found your own real life hero there.
Isolation Junction is available to order now at the following link.
About the Author
Married mum of three, writes first novel to raise awareness of the unseen side of domestic abuse/coercive control.
Local mother and business owner, Jennifer Gilmour, has spent the past eighteen months writing her first novel with the aim of not only raising awareness of this insidious behaviour which brings hidden misery to so many but of bringing about changes at a national level. A ‘survivor’ herself, Jennifer is well aware that changes to national policies and working practices are needed so that situations in which women (and men) present in emotionally abusive situations are recognised and dealt with appropriately and with compassion. Jennifer believes that particular training needs to be focused on recognising the perpetrators of this behaviour, as often they are very persuasive people who are able to manipulate the services themselves.
Jennifer’s Huffington Post article went into more depth about life after domestic abuse and living with the unseen ‘bruises’. She states that, “This is why it is important that not only are the agencies well equipped to recognise abuse and coercive control but that there is support to protect those at risk as well. I was lucky to be supported by Hull DAP, which takes on medium risk cases as well as high risk cases. In many parts of the UK. This is not the case.”
Jennifer’s book follows the story of Rose who is stuck in an abusive and coercive relationship referred to as Isolation Junction. After years of emotional abuse, the self doubt about her future and the erosion of her confidence, Rose takes a stand. Finding herself alone, penniless and frightened Rose wonders how she will ever escape from the situation to provide a better life for herself and her children. With 100 reasons to leave and 1000 reasons why she perceives she can’t – will she have the courage to do it? And will she find the support to regain control and confidence?
Jennifer Gilmour was born and educated in Hull before moving south to attend university. Now happily living in her home city with her husband, three children and a hamster she runs an Internet business (Blissful Gifts and Services) and is a top performing Consultant for Jamberry.
For the opportunity to win one of either a signed copy or e-book of Isolation Junction by Jennifer Gilmour, ensure you enter the giveaway competition here.
You can contact or follow Jennifer at any of the following links:
Kickstarter campaign which is live right now: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/690571062/isolation-junction
Huffington Post: http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/author/jennifer-gilmour
Please make sure to visit one of the other fantastic blogs taking part in this tour.