Random ramble – I need a break.

Howdy folks.

Hope you’re having a fabulous weekend, wherever you are.

Me? Not so much.

There has been so much negativity on social media of Late about the validity of a bloggers point of view when it comes to books. We have an agenda, we’re in the publishers pocket so incapable of a genuine and honest review… You’ve probably seen it so I don’t need to rehash it all again.

I have broad shoulders (and a fat arse) so I can take the fact that a ‘reader’ may not like what I do. I can take that a fellow blogger may not like the length of my reviews. Life is too short to get hung up on the small things. I know it hurts and like many others will defend the integrity of all my fellow bloggers. We do this for love not profit.

That said, today, for the first time ever I felt like I was under fire. Now it made me realise that what I am not liking is all the negativity from both sides of the seemingly widening blogger/reader divide. What started as a small crack is fast becoming a deep canyon. Them v us.Β The world is made up of people with differing opinions. I would have it no other way. Everyone has the right to defend themselves and everyone has the right to feel offended, even to express this to others. But social media is becoming far too negative. Far too self destructive.

So, I guess what I am trying to say is that I need a social media break. I’m not giving up the blog, I love it too much (although today is the first time that being in this blogging world has actually made me cry). I will share my posts, champion the books I love and scream to the world about those fabulous books I have the great honour of being in a blog tour for. And I will tweet and share other bloggers book love too. But if I am not as active on Twitter and Facebook as I was, then maybe you’ll understand why. I don’t want to fall out of love with blogging but if I stick around right now there is a real chance that I will.

Happy reading and all the book love in the world guys.

See you on the other side

JL

51 thoughts on “Random ramble – I need a break.

  1. Aww Jen. Sadly I don’t think you can change some peoples minds regarding bloggers reviews. It is very frustrating that so many think we get paid or are biased in our reviews and no doubt we can carry on until we are blue in the face but with some people we will never get through to them. A lot of bloggers are very passionate about what they do and do take things very personally. I will hold my hands up as I do to at times and have considered packing it all in more than a few times but then that lets them win. In this case I would take your own advise and try not to let it get to you and move on as life is to short (I know easier said than done). Big Hugs xx

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      1. I totally get that Jen. I’ve suffered with depression on and off. Social media is the worst place to be when you feel like that and stepping away from it for a while is definitely the best thing to do. Blogging is a mainly great environment to be in and the majority of bloggers I know in person and virtually are a great bunch and very supportive. Take care and look forward to your return. Hopefully will be meeting you at one of the many meet ups through out the year. xx

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  2. I’m in the same position as you Jen, been so close to jacking it in this month. It’s easy to say “just ignore” etc etc but it’s beginning to drag & it’s getting more personal each time. Like yourself, I will share reviews & write my own but I think taking a step back from the online world may be necessary x

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    1. It’s a real sad state of affairs Kate. I don’t mind people not liking blogs, of them being suspicious about them. Why wouldn’t you be. The world is full of corruption and negativity why wouldn’t people who don’t know expect blogging to be the same. We know the truth but sometimes it does look like a marketing gimmick. In some respects it is – all the ‘free’ publicity and book gets. You can’t buy better recommendation than word of mouth. I just can’t stand all of the arguments.

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  3. I completely understand where you’re coming from there have been a few occasions lately where (despite my agreement with the post) I’ve felt that the banding together on whichever side of the divide felt divisive. We are all entitled to our own opinion, to write reviews for whichever books we choose and in the style that suits us – we are not clones after all.
    Sorry for whatever has pushed you to the limit 😞

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  4. Alison Roome

    Hi Jen. As a reader rather than a blogger I love the book reviewers. I’ve discovered some great new authors and really enjoyed books I wouldn’t normally have picked up. I tend to think of book bloggers / reviewers like really well informed bookshop owners. They see a lot and know what stands out as being good etc and can recommend these ones. Whereas I would just go for my usual type of book.

    I can’t comment on the blogger v reader debate as I don’t blog but personally I think you do a great job. And surely it’s about the books not the individuals. The whole point of books is to share them , recommend them, get the word out and. I appreciate that. Thanks.

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    1. Thanks Alison. Your feedback means a lot.

      There are far worse things happening in the world that we should be worried about. It’s one of the sad sides of social media though, one I don’t think we’ll ever eradicate. Free speech is wonderful.

      Thanks again for your comments. It’s a moment of sunshine in a dark day.

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  5. So sorry to hear this. Joanne Harris has done an excellent #TenThingsAboutBookBloggers on Twitter today. Reading is always subjective & our opinions are simply that. No harm in staying off social media for a bit but glad to hear that you’ll still keep reviewing. Xx

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  6. Aww Jenn sorry to hear you feel so low today, hope your time away from social media will help. Everyone has the right to opinion and should be made to feel awkward or uncomfortable. I’m also going to keep away from the Bloggers v readers post as I’m feeling vulnerable as it is at the moment and I don’t need to make myself feel worse. I’m even wondering if blogging is worth the hassle and perhaps I should just read and review on Amazon & Goodreads . Chin up “chuck” tomorrow’s another day sending you big hugs 😘😘

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    1. Cheers Lorraine and don’t you dare give up the blogging. I love your reviews. I love all bloggers reviews and opinions. I even love readers (I know… I’m a traitor to the blogging cause). I just don’t love negativity.

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    2. Lorraine…you’re reviews and blog are a highlight in the blogging community!! I hope you know that and don’t decide to give up your blog. I love The Book Review Cafe, yours is one I don’t ever miss reading.

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  7. Sorry that you are feeling upset over what is happening. Happily I’ve missed the latest row, been to Liverpool to collect my Orenda roadshow tickets. Social media can be great but it can also be a very nasty place at times xx

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    1. Sadly it can Steph. I think that trip to Liverpool at the end of the months is one of the few good things to come from social media. Can’t wait to add to my book collection (not that I need it). πŸ˜‰

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  8. Jen I’m sorry to hear about all this. I’m not on Facebook which I’m guessing is where this blogger bashing is taking place so I don’t know the details but whatever it’s about how sad. I’ve only been blogging 4 months but I can’t imagine why there needs to be a divide among bloggers and readers…aren’t we all doing the same thing…reading?? My instinct has always been to stay off Facebook and sometimes I’ve felt I was missing so much book stuff but right now I’m glad I haven’t joined. I hope you keep blogging and writing your wonderful reviews and ramblings because I really enjoy reading them.

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    1. Thanks Renee. You’re right. Safer to stay off Facebook I think. Sadly it’s spilled over onto Twitter too. Harder to have an argument in 140 characters but hey, it’s still a bit sad. Sadly social media is a necessity to spread the word but I guess I’ll be somewhat selective about where and when from here on in. We should all enjoy books and blogging for what it is no matter what others think and feel.

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      1. Agreed Jen!! I’m really bad about participating on social media other than sharing others reviews but right now I’m thinking my ignorance in the social media world is a good thing.

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  9. So sorry to hear this, Jen! Like Renee, yourblog is one on my list that I always look forward to reading. I absolutely agree with you about FB. I’ve seen friendships end on there. I’m on it, but mainly so I can keep in touch better with long distance family (and TBC).

    Hang in there and know that you are loved and respected! 😘

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  10. Hi Jen! I know how you are feeling!! Last weekend was bad but this weekend seems even worse. I always though a love of books brought everyone together in this fabulous community we have but at the moment seems to just be driving wedges between people. Don’t give up just take a step back if you feel it may lead to you becoming more upset. Tension is running high but feel it’s driven by frustration at being unable to get others to see things the same way. People will always disagree it’s how we move on that’s the key thing. We all feel like giving up at some point but most take a break then come back with a renewed passion. Take care xxx

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    1. Thanks Jo. I need a dose of happy right now I think. Can’t even concentrate on reading so it must be bad. It is also an issue as some of these I desperately need to read for blog tours but feel I’m going to let the authors down by not being able to concentrate or be positive. Very sad week.

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  11. Jen – so sorry to hear about this experience. I’ve always found the blogging community to be incredibly supportive, and I would guess that you have too, aside from today. I don’t know what’s been said (or why or by whom), but I really enjoy reading your reviews, and I hope that you do keep blogging. Sending hugs! Jo

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  12. I haven’t really seen a lot of the negative stuff this week. Only heard about it via Book Connectors in Facebook (having a four month old I tend to get trapped in a bubble! Lol which in cases like this isnt a bad thing) but I am genuinely sorry that it has caused you so much upset *big hug* I’ve only been blogging a couple of weeks and have found it to be a wonderfully supportive and friendly community, it really saddens me that my fellow bloggers have been subject to personal attacks. It is just petty, small minded people with nothing better to do. I have been subject to social media bashing in the past due to a huge decision I made in my personal life, people thought they had the right to voice their hateful opinions on my life and my choices. I took a social media break and came back happier. ( I also took great pleasure in blocking and Facebook culling “friends”!)
    I hope you’re feeling better soon – chin up and don’t let the haters win! Xxx

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  13. For a while I did believe the blogging / book lover community stayed away from judgement, drama, and hurt, but several incidents made me open my eyes. It was naive of me to believe we would steer clear of this kind of issue. I am so sorry this is affecting you and I totally understand and respect your need to stay away from this. I truly hope this won’t alter your love for blogging and I still hope to see you around, I do enjoy chatting with you πŸ™‚ Sending good vibes and hugs and a note that says take all the time you need ❀

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    1. Thanks Donna. I’ll still be blogging, just maybe not so much on Facebook etc. Every post I make I’d be paranoid about offending someone somewhere some how. I still love being able to bring a smile to an authors face so my rambling reviews will live on. For now at least.

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      1. I understand the feeling, that is what made me hesitant about book blogging at first. Opinions are not always respected and some people don’t give you enough space to exist without judgement. I do hope you still enjoy it and stay with us πŸ™‚

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  14. Enjoy your break but never, ever stop blogging. Opinions are opinions and, like people, some stink. I don’t necessarily agree with you on every single book but your reviews come across as honest and spontaneous – and definitely not stinky.

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  15. So sorry to read this Jen, I’ve not been been about on social media today, so don’t know what’s gone on (thankfully). I love your blog and your views so take some time out out but don’t leave us. I read a quote that I shared elsewhere when someone was being got at and while it doesn’t stop the hurt it does put things into perspective, sadly I can’t post an image but essentially the essence is – Those who mind, don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.

    On a blunter note – don’t let the buggers get you down, because we care and you matter.

    Take care xx

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    1. Thank you. Means a lot. I’m sure I’ll be fine after some time ignoring all the hate people are sharing these days. I usually don’t let things get too me but a bit too tired to cope at the moment so easier to be affected.

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  16. Hi Jen within the past week I became one of your followers. I just recently joined twitter as a reader to share what I’m reading and connect with readers and bloggers. I am in the process of starting a blog myself and have enjoyed, more than words can say, reading blog posts and book reviews on twitter and you have been one of my favorite bloggers. I don’t know anything about the reader vs blogger controversy but I hope you will be able to push through it and continue doing what you love. I truly look forward to your twitter posts and would hate to see you go.

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    1. Thanks Tina. I’m planning on continuing blogging, just cutting back on Facebook groups. Blogging is something I truly enjoy and wouldn’t want to give up. Just a tough day.

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  17. I’m so sorry you’ve been made to feel this way 😦 I was made to cry a couple of weeks ago, when I was accused of self promoting by the admin of a Facebook book group after posting a blog link to my top ten books read in 2016. I posted it to try and generate discussion amongst others in the group who had either read one of the books or liked the look of the books I had loved. Instead I was accused of self promotion and attempting to get personal gain from my post. It really upset me 😦

    I just don’t get where the hostility towards bloggers comes from? If you don’t like bloggers you don’t have to read their posts, and if you’re jealous you’re missing out then set up a blog yourself. I just don’t get it. I felt pretty rubbish the day it happened, but felt much better the next day, so I hope you feel better about things in a day or two xxx

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  18. Hi Jen – I’m a very new follower to your blog, but not to book blogging. I don’t really know what’s happened as I generally don’t do Facebook but in the 7 years I’ve been blogging I’ve seen this kind of thing crop up occasionally. It is a shame, book blogging is 99% brilliant, filled with awesome people who just want to chat books. Sadly, I think the down side of the internet is there will also always be people ready to criticise and be mean. I’ve been away from my blog and twitter for 18 months due to personal difficulties, but I’m always drawn back and am enjoying catching up and getting to know new people, I hadn’t realised how much I’d missed it. I personally learned to stick with the bits that made me happy and block out (as much I can) what doesn’t and do my own thing. I hope you feel better soon and I’m looking forward to reading more from your blog xx

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  19. Hi Jen, I don’t know you very well, as broadband has been keeping me from ingesting as many blogs as I used to but I hope this all passes and everything goes back to how I’ve at least always perceived it to be, just a load of people sharing their love for books with people actually believing that they’re doing it for love and with no hidden agendas. It’s crap that people should be made to feel bad for something they work so hard at and put so much heart into. Big hug and glad it’s only put you off social media and not your brilliant blog x

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  20. Didn’t catch this post yesterday Jen as trying to rest. Last year (before I started Bloomin’Brilliant Books) I deleted my FB account and had a total break from social media for a couple of months. I’m not suggesting you do the same thing (it was a bit extreme!!) but having a break can, I think, do you good. Being a newbie blogger I have found the blogging community very welcoming and supportive but there seems to be so much bitterness from non-bloggers at the moment and it’s getting to people. You’re my blogging buddy and I’m always here for you xxx

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  21. I feel like I’ve missed something here – though that’s probably a good thing. Having only recently started to follow your blog and not really engaging on social media, it sounds like your situation won’t immediately affect me, but from some of the other comments made here, there’s clearly an issue. Which is a great shame as I’ve been discovering new books and authors through reading blogs like yours. As an Indie author myself, having bloggers willing to read and review is invaluable – even the bad reviews help. So whatever the issue is, I hope it won’t prevent you and your fellow bloggers from keeping up the good work.

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